If your self-esteem is suffering, then you probably want to build it up and become more confident in yourself. If you don’t, you should! Self-esteem is important in life. In fact, Brian Tracy says that your level of self-esteem is a critical determinant of your happiness and success in life.
But, how can you become more confident in yourself? How can you gain the self-respect that helps you hold your head up high and start taking action on creating the life you really want? It’s not always easy with all the negative thoughts rolling around in your head and all the people willing to try to attack your self-worth at every turn. But, if you want it, then it’s possible. Following are 7 self-esteem quotes that will help you build up your confidence and self-worth.
1. Fear Of Not Being Good Enough Is Felt By Everyone!
One of the problems that many people have with low self-esteem is that they think feeling a lack of confidence is not normal, and that because they are experiencing low self-esteem, other people are better than them. They think other people have more faith in themselves, are more confident, and are able to get through life without as much worry or fear. But, that’s not the case.
Everyone experiences the fear of not being good enough. The difference between the people who obviously don’t feel confident in themselves and the people who stand out and look confident is that the people who look confident believe in themselves enough to move forward despite their fear. They push through it. They don’t let their fear define what they will or will not do because they know they can succeed. And, they don’t dwell in the fear because they are too busy taking action in their life despite the worry that they might not be good enough.
Knowing that, you should feel better. You are not less than or more than anyone else. You have the same fears and emotions, and you have the same potential to boost your self-esteem and go after what you want. And, if you are willing to hold your head up high and go forward despite your concerns, then you can move yourself into a more confident state, both on the inside and the out.
I was reading tweets from Ariana Grande to find out what she had to say about her first time hosting Saturday Night Live, and I found this tweet that may not have had to do with SNL, but it did have to do with facing fears: nothing to prove & I’m bullet proof & I know what I’m doinnng. That’s exactly how you move through the fear and do what you want to do. Remind yourself that you have nothing to prove to anyone, and failure and cheap shots are not going to hurt you because you are bullet proof, and you are doing exactly what is best for you! When you can maintain that attitude, you are going to start to boost your self-esteem enough to go after the things you want in life.
2. Building Self-Esteem Through Positive Thinking
Niko Everett had extremely low self-esteem for many years in her life, but when she realized that her self-esteem was governed by her thoughts about herself, and she had the power to change her thoughts, she quickly realized that building self-esteem is possible. While there were a few other tricks she used to build her self-esteem, this is one of the self-esteem quotes that you need to remember. Positive thinking is necessary to build up self-esteem, and it is possible to do it.
You can build up the thoughts about yourself that are good and you can start to turn down the loudness of the negative thoughts and eventually delete them altogether. It’s a matter of telling yourself what you want to believe about yourself. It’s a matter of being your biggest cheerleader and saying all those things that a best friend would tell you about yourself. The more you hear those positive thoughts, the more you will believe them.
It takes time, though. You can try to think you are a rock star all you want, but you won’t believe it in the beginning and your negative thoughts will do everything they can to let you know how you really feel. Stick with it. Keep telling yourself how amazing you are and keep pushing those negative thoughts about yourself to the back. Soon, you will start to believe the positive thoughts and your self-esteem will start to build up.
3. Learn More About Your Past, Present, And Future Self
If you want to build your self-esteem, it’s time to sit down and get to know yourself really well. Figuring out what you have been good at in the past, what you are good at now, and what you want to be good at in the future, can help you clearly see the value that you have.
When you reflect on the things that you are good at and how they have impacted your life positively, you will instantly start to like yourself more. When you like yourself more, your confidence in yourself with instantly get a boost.
Learning more about who you want to become will also help you boost your self-esteem. Psychologists have found that when you set goals out for yourself and have the intention of following through with them, you actually like yourself more than when you are aimlessly going through life. That makes total sense because goals are set according to your passions, and when you are living according to your passions in life, you feel amazing. You feel on purpose. You feel as if you are doing something important. So, of course, that would absolutely benefit your self-esteem.
Dr. Phil recommends writing down the skills, traits, and characteristics that make you so great. He also recommends writing out what you are most proud of about yourself. Writing it down can really help you get confident in who you are because writing it down gives you some distance from your thoughts and allows you to clearly see what is so great about you – as if you are looking in from an outsider’s perspective.
In short, once you remind yourself of who you are and what you are great at, take some time to set out some goals that match who you are and what you want most in life, and that will help boost your self-esteem immediately. Then go out there and take action on those goals for an incredible boost that will not fade away.
4. How To Stop Letting Other People Influence Your Self-Esteem
Do you need another reason to sit down and really focus on figuring out who you are and what makes you so great? This is it! Once you get clear on who you are, then nobody else can convince you that you are someone else. They may try to tell you that you are not worthy or not liked or not good enough, but if you are clear on yourself and know that you are worthy, liked, and good enough, then they won’t be able to influence your self-esteem at all.
Always remember that you know yourself better than anyone else. They are speaking about you from their judgements, not from facts. You can give them the facts if they want to hear them because you already know them about yourself, but their judgments won’t mean much when you know the truth.
5. You Are Worthy Of Being Here
What Iyanla was getting at with this quote is that when you feel unworthy, you do things that you don’t want to do just to try and prove your worth. You give too much or overcompensate, and that detracts from your happiness and ability to give your authentic gifts to the world.
If you ever doubt your worth in this world, remind yourself of this: If you were not worthy of being here, you wouldn’t have been born. It’s really that simple. If you are here, it is for a reason, so don’t ever doubt that.
You have the ability to contribute to this world in an amazing way just by being here. You may inspire or teach. You may improve something or someone. You may help things run smoother. You may even help someone live their best life possible. You have the potential to do all of those things, which means you are very valuable and worthy of being here.
It’s worth pointing out that you may have done some amazing things in this world you don’t even know about. Often times we can affect people in a big way without knowing we did so. Therefore, trust that you have been valuable to many people in your life, even if you were not aware of it, and feel the value that brings to your life.
6. You’re Here For A Short Time
This is a great lesson in self-esteem. If you don’t think too much of yourself, there is a good chance that other people have helped you feel that way. It’s easy to listen to people that we don’t know, and even people that we think love us, and take everything they have to say to heart.
Viola Davis struggled with what other people said about her and let it affect her self-esteem in a very negative way until her dad passed away. Then, she realized life was too short to worry about what people were saying about her.
You don’t have to lose a loved one to understand this lesson. Look back a year or two and pay attention to how fast it went by. All those victories and all those failures happened in an instant and didn’t affect the bigger picture as much as you thought they would. Life goes by fast, and making the most out of each day is the only way to truly live it. When you view life in that way, you don’t have time to hide in a corner or get upset and dwell on what people are saying about you. You are too busy trying to soak up every moment that life has to offer you!
7. Have Faith In Yourself
This was advice to a woman who was stuck in a place of low self-esteem. She had lost hundreds of pounds, and while there were a lot of good things she was saying in her life about herself, she always had a ‘but’ to follow up the positive statements. For example, she would say, “Look how small you are now, but your butt is still big.” That constant need to say ‘but’ was keeping her in a state of low self-esteem, and Joel Osteen gave an answer based on scripture with a message that everyone can benefit from.
Faith in yourself, your future, your potential, your awesomeness, your abilities, is what you need to keep you from saying ‘but’ and maintaining a higher level of self-esteem. Instead of saying something positive followed by a ‘but’, you will just say positive things, such as “I know that I’m going to find the love of my life,” or “I know that everything I do has meaning.”
Joel’s advice to recognize that you may be on a page that is tough right now, and to have faith that the page will turn to something better, is a very inspiring and uplifting message. Having faith that the page will turn can help you maintain a higher level of worth and confidence in tough times as you wait for something better. And, it always turns. You never stay stuck in life if you are taking action on the life you want, so just have faith that it will turn and go through this page in life the best way you can.