Quotes for better understanding on love
Some love quotes are focused on your boyfriend, girlfriend, friends, family members, or whoever, but the following love quotes can be used by everyone who wants to understand love better. I’m talking about love with anyone in your life, even strangers. Your health, your happiness, your stress levels, your confidence, and everything else improve when you add more love into your life, so it’s something that everyone needs to focus on.
Following are 10 love quotes that give insight into things that matter to many people. In other words, if you are struggling with something to do with love, you will likely find some inspiration with these love quotes.
1. Love Is What Really Matters
Wow. Can you picture yourself in that scenario? If you can, then this is one of the love quotes that will resonate with you strongly. Everything that seems to matter in our lives, when things are going well, changes when things are going really, really bad. Yet, we don’t get insight into that different perception until we live through the really, really bad.
Ellen Kreidman was talking about her fight with breast cancer and how she felt in this quote. She has since passed away after fighting with her breast cancer for over 19 years.
The next time you find yourself taking love for granted, I want you to remember this quote, put yourself in her shoes, feel the need to love and be loved back, and then appreciate the love you are getting with more appreciation than you’ve ever felt before.
2. Love Does Not Hurt
You’ve heard it before, but I’ll say it again! Love does not hurt! Love is not about enduring abuse or giving everything you have to someone who gives you nothing back. Love shouldn’t make you cry in the corner, feel pain, feel longing, or feel unloved! Yes, there may be pain as you work through different situations, but overall, love doesn’t stab you over and over again.
Oprah said this love quote as she talked about having her hand slammed in a door by a man she was dating. She fell to the ground, looked in the mirror, and, as many people do, considered the physical abuse crossing a line, even though she had been enduring the mental abuse for a while.
If you are in an abusive relationship, and you think you are staying because you love the person so much, think again. You are staying to prove a point.
– Maybe it is that you are capable of handling the abuse.
– Maybe you think you can change them somehow.
– Maybe you think you are staying because your kids would be upset if you left, and you want to show them that you care about them.
But, all of these things are invalid. No one was built to handle abuse all the time and stay sane. No one can change someone else. And, the kids would be better off with a strong single parent than a weak one in an abusive relationship.
3. Love’s Potential Changes Person To Person
– T.D. Jakes during Oprah’s Lifeclass
We all don’t love in equal amounts. Some people don’t look outside of themselves too often and, therefore, don’t have a lot of fondness for anyone. They are too busy focused on themselves, and only have a little bit of love to share with other people.
Other people have a lot of love for others in their heart. They are compassionate and considerate and enjoy the intimacy that comes from a happy and healthy relationship.
T.D. Jakes has a few good love quotes out there, but this one is meant to bring us the awareness that someone you want to love you may not have the capacity to do so. Wanting them to do it won’t change things, and wanting them to give you what you give them is unrealistic.
In other words, if you are in a relationship with a pint person, and you are a 10-gallon person, then they could be giving you all they are capable of giving you. If you want more than that, you will need to look for it elsewhere.
4. Make People Truly Feel Loved (And Require The Same For Yourself)
When you feel loved by someone, and they feel loved by you, it’s much easier to work through conflicts. But, when you don’t feel cared about by someone, and they don’t feel cared about by you, it adds elements of resentment that makes it hard to work through the problems.
Dr. Gary Chapman is a relationship counselor, and he wrote the book ‘The 5 Languages of Love’. He says that we all require different things in order to be loved, including physical touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time, and receiving gifts.
Think about that concept in all of your relationships. If you can’t confidently say you know what your loved ones need, ask everyone what they need to feel loved, and then let them know what you need. Then do those things to keep each other’s love tank full. Not only will it help you in times of conflict, but it will benefit how you view each other even when times are good.
5. Don’t Love With Limitations
– Ellen DeGeneres on her marriage with Portia de Rossi
This is one of the great love quotes to remember when you are requiring someone to be different in order to love them, or they are requiring you to be different in order to love you. Love should be without condition. If someone loves you, they love you for who you are. They shouldn’t try to change your beliefs, habits, values, likes, dislikes, or anything else.
As Ellen said, she and Portia respect each other, which is important to her, and would be important to most people who understand what not being respected feels like. The bottom line is that when you respect the people you love and they respect you back, love feels much easier. There are no hard feelings involved.
6. Learn More About The People You Love
We are quick to judge people based on our beliefs, but Joel Osteen says that if we get to know people, and see what they’ve been through, what challenges they’ve faced, and who has hurt them in life, then we will see them through eyes of love rather than judgement.
I think his challenge would change the people who have pint-sized capacities for love into at least 1 gallon! When you take the time to get to know people, you become more compassionate towards who they are and how they interact with the world around them. This includes the people you already love.
I have a friend who lives far away from me. We’ve been friends since we were young, and she thought she knew me inside and out; however, I had a lot of experiences that changed who I was and how I saw the world. When we got together, she was annoyed that I was not behaving in a way she expected. We had to sit down and learn more about each other so she could see where I was coming from and I could see where she was coming from. Our relationship grew leaps and bounds when we did that!
I recommend to do this with the people you love too. If you see something that you don’t like in someone you love, get to know them better. Find out why they do or say those things that drive you nuts. The love in your relationship will only increase.
7. Set The Intention Of Love In Your Relationships
If you want to learn a thing or two about intentions, Brendon Burchard can teach you, so it’s no surprise that this love quote is focused on intention.
When you make your goal to bring love into the relationship, and you take action on that goal daily, then your relationship is going to improve. A lot of people have intentions to be right, or to change someone, or to make someone see things more from their point of view, but bringing love into the relationship – as much love as possible, is the best intention you can have for a loving relationship.
This will work in all of your relationships. Even in relationships with people you barely know. If you find value in everyone and intend to bring as much love as possible into their lives, then your relationships are going to rock!
8. Don’t Shut Out Love
Matthew Hussey’s advice to a girl who didn’t want to get hurt in relationships
Too many people are scared to get into relationships because they don’t want to get hurt. The girl on the call with Matthew Hussey said that she shut relationships down before they even started because of her fear.
Be brave with love. Don’t reject it because you are scared you are going to get hurt. That includes love from friends, lovers, family members, or even people that you are getting to know. Pain will happen, and as Matthew says you have to be prepared for it, but getting into a loving relationship is more important than avoiding potential pain.
Go into relationships with an attitude that you could experience great success with them, and if you don’t, you will just fine. You will have the courage to say ‘this is not for me’ and leave the relationship. A little bit of pain won’t kill you. You are much stronger than that.
9. What To Do When Someone You Love Doesn’t Love You Back
We talked about how some people only have the ability to love in pint-size quantities, but the fact is that some people are not going to love you back – at all, even the people who are supposed to love you like your mother or father. No matter what you do, you can’t make them love you, and it hurts.
When it happens, this is one of the love quotes to remember. You get to choose if you want to stay in the relationship or get out. If you stay in, you have to deal with the fact that they don’t love (so why would you stay?), and if you don’t stay, you get to leave knowing that you are doing yourself a favor by leaving the relationship to find someone who will love you.
10. Feed Your Love To Be More Loving
That love wolf you have inside of you is hungry for love! You also have one that is hungry for hate. Every day you get to make the choice which one you want to feed, and if you want to be a more loving person, with loving relationships, then choose to feed the love wolf.
How can you feed it?
– Be kind to others
– Be compassionate to others
– Be patient
– Be gentle
– Celebrate the people in your life
– Make other people happy
All of these things will help you feed your love and make it grow stronger than the hate you have living inside. Soon, it will be so strong that the hateful part of you will be too weak to come out and play. Love will be all that you are about.